The Language of Love

i stumbled upon one video worth sharing on facebook few days ago in which the husband and wife were discussing about the language of love on a talk show. the video is only a good few minutes but i love the input hence i'm gonna share it with you here - minus the video because apparently i suck at technology and i don't know how to share from fb to here without having to search it on youtube.

the husband shares on how he improves on the relationship after he read a book written by Gary Chapman titled The 5 Love Languages (he claimed this is one of his favourite books! HE READS. *lovey dovey eyes emoji*). he said in the early stage of his marriage he finds it difficult to understand his wife, he tried showing his love by touching, hugging, kissing, helping her out however he feels like the wife isn't truly happy. too often we love people the way we want to be loved but that's not always the case because different people give/receive/appreciate love differently. that's when he learned about the love languages.

isn't this guy awesome? that is exactly what we women want from men - EFFORT! (and their understanding, love, attention, compliments, money well frankly, we want everything from them bahahaha!)

so the husband finally understands that their way of giving and receiving love is totally different. to him, physical touch is the way he shows his unconditional love towards his wife but his wife craves for something else - undivided attention and gifts on special occasions.   

basically, there are 5 different languages of love (according to this Mr. Brilliant Chapman):

1) Physical Touch
2) Acts of Service
3) Quality Time
4) Words of Affirmation
5) Receiving Gifts

and none is superior than the other it depends on our own preference, really. and you can do a quiz to test which one is really your language (come on, i understand we feel like each of them is important and we can relate to, but girls, FOCUS! you can't have all at once unless if you are very very lucky, i doubt we ever will be!) you can do the quiz HERE. (yes i just spoonfed you, you little brats now go do the test and share with me the result!)

i know you did not ask, but mind me sharing mine? ;)

the utmost important one shall be Quality Time. i love spending time with people whom are very dear to me. i don't really need those fancy PDAs, just as long as you are with me having deep conversation, small talks or simply in the same room whatevs i just need to feel your presence. i'm clingy in a way that i want to see you everyday, talk and do either the most random thing or nothing at all.

and yes the second one will be Words of Affirmation. i like to be constantly reminded that i am loved, that you are missing me, that i am beautiful (even though i did not shower the whole day lololol). compliments do mean something to me, my face may look rather obnoxious but trust me my heart blooms the prettiest flowers when you compliment me (and that doesn't not necessarily mean outer appearance, mind you)

the least language i speak would be physical touch and gifts, i think. i value my personal space so at times i rather be sitting at the end of the couch while you are at another end and holding hands isn't really my thing to be frank because my hands sweat when i'm nervous bahahaha. and i get nervous a lot when it comes to the person i'm in love with. gifts? hmmm let me just put it like this, i rather be receiving money and buying something i like than getting gifts that i don't really fancy. :)

okay done!

what's yours? ;)

The 10 Day Challenge

Sebab aku boring.

Boring ada 2 maksud di sini. Sama ada boring; aku tengah bosan eh tak tau nak buat benda lain yang lebih berfaedah atau boring yang satu lagi; aku semakin lama semakin membosankan. Haha.

Aku ni jarang bosan. Tapi dah kalau reti bosan tu, bahaya. Nanti dia pergi buat benda yang pelik-pelik. So untuk mengelakkan diri dari buat benda pelik yang bakal membangkitkan penyesalan di kemudian hari, biar lah aku main game ni. Game kesian sebab bosan nama dia.

Haa cuba teka berapa banyak bosan dan boring sudah aku gunakan setakat ni? See, aku memang membosankan. Mohon bertabah.

Okay sebab kita namakan dia the 10 day challenge, makanya game ni aku kena main selama 10 hari. Aku belum tetapkan lagi sama ada nak main 10 hari straight atau suka hati nenek aku bebila nak main sampai lah abis 10 hari. Itu kita just go with the flow ok?

The 10 Day Challenge.

Day 1: TEN things you want to say to 10 different people right now.

Day 2: NINE things about yourself.

Day 3: EIGHT ways to win your heart

Day 4: SEVEN things that cross your mind a lot.

Day 5: SIX things you wish you had never done.

Day 6: FIVE people who mean a lot (in no order whatsoever)

Day 7: FOUR turn offs.

Day 8: THREE turn ons.

Day 9: TWO smileys that describe your life right now.

Day 10: ONE confession.

So kita patut start bila?

;)

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Random 1

okay, let us make this short and simple.

picture this,

you have been together with your partner hmm let say 2 years. you think you know him in and out. you text each other every day, updating one's activity and all. though you don't see him often but you know he will never cheat. never. you just know. you don't usually check his phone (because you trust him) and even sometimes when you do, nothing suspicious there.

and one day, out of boredom, you checked his wallet just to be surprised by something in it. something you will never ever believe he would keep - even in your lifetime.

a pack of unused condoms.

what would you do?

a) pretend you see nothing, act like you don't know anything, put his wallet back where he left it. keep it to yourself because you're a nice girlfriend, it hurts but well guys are gonna be guys.

b) stay shut but keep the condom with you. (you ain't gonna find it when you need it you asshole! go breed that  motherfucker!)

c) confront him. get all psychotic, cry your lung out, ask him why did he do that to you. go all out maybe punch his stomach when he's driving or try jumping out of the car on federal highway.

d) joke about it every once in a while when you both are in the middle of casual talk or even the serious one. (let him know that you actually knew in well, you think a classy way well well well, because you're one cool girlfriend! he better admit everything nowwww!)

e) being in a state of denial (though you saw it yourselfff), maybe his friend asked him to buy those, *happy thought happy thoughtttt* *optimistic, positive* he never texted other girl that must be someone trying to prank him.

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because deep down inside you know, he's not that kind of guy.

because you fairly sure he doesn't have other woman behind you.

because well you and him haven't reached "that" part in your relationship just yet. haven't talked about it. heck, haven't even thought about it. you and him? nope! HE'S NOT THAT KIND OF GUY. nope nope nopeee!

so why does he have condoms with him?

anyone?










hehehehe this is completely random okay. don't get me wrong. just something for you guys to ponder. think! i know rendang and lemang make you lazy, that's why i take this opportunity to work your lazy brain out! if you don't wanna think because you think you would never ever be in this situation ever ever everrr, then it's up to you. i like to think the worst of everything. just to prepare own self. hihi.

THINK.